Top Ways To Silence Negative Self-Talk
Our inner voice has the power to make us feel like we could conquer the world and can make us feel the lowest of lows. Our inner voice is a combination of influences. Your inner voice can come from the following places.
1. The people you surround yourself with.
2. The way you were raised/ parented. A quote/meme that circles around pinterest and social media a lot says the following “The Way We Talk to Our Children Becomes Their Inner Voice.” I believe this to be true. It has manifested in my own personal inner voice.
3. The content you consume books, education, social media etc.
4. Your own intuition or feelings.
I personally think your inner voice is extremely important and holds a lot of power. If you have an inner voice that is full of negative self-talk it can lead you to feeling vulnerable, inadequate, and defeated.
It has taken me personally a while to silence that negative self-talk and turn my inner voice into a positive one and one I can trust. Here is how I personally have overcome my negative self-talk. Honestly it can still creep in but the great thing is I recognize it happening, so I can overcome it.
The Ways I silence my negative self-talk
1. I went to a therapist for about a year. This helped me learn that I had an inner voice and rrecognize a lot of what I was telling myself was untrue.
2. On a daily basis I remind myself of all the areas I excel at and use affirmations. I work on my affirmations at the end of quiet time each day and before I go to bed at night.
3. I have begun editing my social media content….I am working hard at not comparing myself to other momma’s, only consuming social media that is positive and uplifting.
4. One of the big things that has helped me is becoming a parent. I want my children to know that no matter what comes their way they can overcome any challenge or obstacle. If I am negative then that will reflect how I am parenting my children. Remember that quote about the inner voice.
Note : A ritual that I have with my children…we try and do it most mornings is what we call their Smiles….how this works is I strive to tell my children “Good Morning” when they wake up and then while we are getting ready for the day we do their smiles. I ask to see their smile and then tell them special personality traits and or accomplishments about themselves and most of the time they will repeat me. I look into their eyes and tell them these affirmations. They love it …I also use it for when they are feeling down or upset.
5. I journal and have a set quiet time this helps me get out any feelings, emotions, and discover why and where they are coming from. This time of reflection helps me have a positive outlook on the day.
6. I have most recently started listening to podcasts and books (Why Busy Mom’s Need Audible)that are uplifting and encouraging. ( My favorite podcasts for Women).
7. Communication – When I find myself in a place of continuous negative and inner critic voice going on I reach out to my husband and two of my best friends. My husband is my number one best friend and when I tell him how I am feeling he helps me work through it. I also have two close friends that I trust and are honest with me.
All these tools have helped me silence my own personal negative self – talk that involved the following lies…
1. I am not disciplined enough to get healthy
2. I won’t be able to start a website or write (I am not a good enough writer)
3. I am an awful mom for yelling and or getting frustrated with my children
4. I am not a good friend
5. I am not a good mom
These and many others lies use to run…through my head. Now when they start to creep up I remind myself of the following.
1. I am strong and brave
2. I am a great friend, wife, and mother
3. I am organized and can do anything I put my mind too.
4. I have the courage to put myself out there and be authentic.
We as women and mom’s need to silence the negative self-talk and start uplifting ourselves and each other. We need to focus on being our most authentic selves and learning that it is not a weakness to be vulnerable and share ourselves with those we trust. If you have great ways that you overcome negative self talk drop me a comment and or email. Also, be sure to sign up for new notifications and enter to win a chance for a free copy of Girl Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis.
Til Our Next Adventure,